I’m not sure when my children became adults because I certainly don’t feel any older. My youngest son recently started a new job and moved away from home for the first time. As hard as it may be to see your adult child leave the nest, it’s also thrilling to see them spread their wings as they embark on their own. My son had a limited amount of time to move and was moving several hours away, so we had to organize it, so we didn’t forget anything.
There are several things that you can do to help your adult child, so the move goes smoothly for them.
Make Lists of What You Need
To help my adult child move, we made lists of items that he needed to move, things that he needed to purchase for his new place, and the groceries he needed to get him started. Those lists were a lifesaver when it came to moving him so we could remember what we needed.
My son was somewhat skeptical of all of my list making when we first started the moving process. However, he was all about it when we were in the midst of moving him. I was instructed to leave the packing list on our kitchen island until everything was on the truck and the other lists I made were referred to when we needed them.
Let Your Adult Child Take the Lead
Your child will certainly want to be independent and make decisions on their own. My son did ask for my opinion…a lot. When it came to boxing up items, my son packed his clothes and the personal things from his room. I packed up the kitchen and bathroom items that we purchased and labeled the boxes.
After he moved, he had very distinct ideas of how he wanted things to be in his new place. I made suggestions on a few things but followed his direction when it came to putting items away.
My son gave me control in setting up his kitchen and bathroom. We bounced ideas off of each other during the process in what would work best for him. We set up his bed, but I didn’t help to unpack the remainder of his bedroom or his office space. It gave him the independence to make decisions about those areas on his own.
Helping your adult child move can be a tough process and not just the emotional tug at your heartstrings. It’s a matter of doing what you can to help them while allowing them to make their own decisions. Moving my son went well because we organized the move ahead of time and made decisions together while giving him his independence.
Until next time,